How Relationship Coaching can help you & your partner
Do you want a relationship where you feel content, where your partner inspires and supports you in everything you do? Do you want to be
loved and respected and have a fulfilling, intimate relationship? Do you want someone to respect and share the same values as you do?
Sounds great, doesn’t it? The truth is, relationships like this are rare.
Growing a meaningful
& content relationship
All coaching is really a matter of relationship coaching, isn’t it? Relationships are like amplifiers; they magnify our experiences and can bring us even closer to our inner selves, especially the
unconscious aspects within. The main issue couples normally face is fundamentally misunderstanding; projecting personal values, beliefs and ideals onto one another. You
may think something is important, but your partner may not. You may also be projecting inner emotional feelings and experiences
onto your partner.
“Imagine that you could find out what is important to your partner and how to process emotions so that you’re both open free to be yourselves?” This is the value of what relationship coaching can do for you.
There may still be a stigma around asking for support, whether from a relationship coach or other professional. This really is an old dusty belief, one that causes more harm than anything. It takes more courage to be open than to hide, and no relationship can survive if we aren’t open.
An Integrative Relationship Coach will work with you to gain greater
understanding, improve communication, and discover how to resolve relationship issues in a way that will help both of you grow and connect.
Relationship coaching will help you discover which values are
important for each of you in the context of the relationship, and we will explore the process of the unconscious feelings that usually trip you up. Once you both have this knowledge, you will enjoy aligning your values and relationship goals, and you both can move towards improving the intimacy and depth of your relationship.
There is no magic pill nor is there such a thing as the perfect relationship. Relationships are complex, intimate and require care, the journey of growth and understanding takes time and requires commitment. If you want to transform your life and relationships you must invest in yourself and those relationships.
If you are working on your relationship with a partner, then we would encourage that we work with you individually and together to create the relationship you both want. If you are working on attracting the right partner for yourself, we will focus on this in your private sessions.
One thing is clear from years of coaching; and that is having a relationship coach can totally transform your life.
Frequently Asked Questions about Relationship Coaching
What we have found in our years of relationship coaching is that the main issues between couples are that of projection, miscommunication and the values we have. You may think something is important, but your partner doesn’t – this is okay, as long as its understood and respected. Or you may be projecting some inner emotional stuff onto your partner. Imagine finding out what is important to your partner and how to process emotions so that you’re both open free to be yourselves?
An Integrative Relationship Coach will work with you to gain greater understanding, improve communication, and to discover how to resolve relationship issues in a way that will help both of you grow and connect. I will help you elicit what values are important for each of you in the context of relationship, and we will explore going into process so that you can navigate through the unconscious feelings that usually trip you up all the time. Once you both have this knowledge, you will enjoy aligning your values and relationship goals. It will improve the intimacy and depth of your relationship.
We will take each of you through the Integrative Coaching process, which will help put you both on the same page in your relationship and give you a common language to help your communication. We will ensure that all past unresolved emotions are released and integrated and see if there are still any limiting believes that are no longer helpful.
Carl Jung said that in relationships we seek out each other subconsciously and then project our innermost fears onto our partner. This often means that we take credit for our good side and blame our bad side on our partners. Relationship coaching will help us to learn to take responsibility and accountability for our own emotional nature, our fears, and struggles. Only then can we see our partners for who they truly are.
Have you considered the cost of not investing in yourself? Not choosing to invest in yourself, robs you of the precious time you have in this world, and how you are experiencing that time, whether it’s one of suffering or celebrating life. If you’re not living a life filled with love, meaning and purpose, are you not wasting each moment you have here? Why would you choose to waste even one more second, knowing that you can create an infinitely more fulfilling life, by investing and backing yourself.
To be fair, time is the only thing you do have. It’s the most precious thing you have here, and it doesn’t wait for anyone. Your experience of life is intimately connected to how you choose to spend your time. Time is really the only thing you’re spending. What are you investing your time into? If you don’t invest time into yourself, to create the life you want, what are you investing in?
The truth is, the only things that do work are the things that you commit to. To create something of value, requires a complete investment of yourself. So that you become the change that you want to create. Without being open and willing to change, the only thing that will happen is that you will see more of the same.