Cutting and self-harm is a form of self-destructive behaviour that’s talked about a lot lately. But not all people who cut themselves have a death wish. They are simply hurting themselves physically to numb a different kind of pain, emotional pain.
Self-destructive behaviour isn’t limited to self-harm and cutting. It comes in various forms and with many different symptoms, such as:
- Telling yourself ‘you’ll never be good/pretty/skinny enough
- Eating disorders
- Self-pity rather than finding a way out of the situation
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Gambling and overspending
- Refusing help from others
- Physical neglect
- Anti-social behaviour
Self-destructive behaviour stems from low self-esteem and low self-worth and is typically caused by childhood trauma. Losing a parent at a young age or having to deal with abuse of some sort could leave you feeling worthless and as if everyone is against you.
Many professionals believe that self-sabotaging behaviours are coping mechanisms, while others consider it to be a way of maintaining comfort zones due to unworthiness or a lack of confidence. Whatever the reason, if you’re housing a self-defeating mindset and pushing away the people you love, you need help.
Unfortunately, making positive changes in our lives isn’t always as easy as making a decision and seeing the changes. Often, help is needed along with dedicated effort. And even then, it can take time to correct self-destructive behaviours and habits.
How an Integrative Coach Can Help
The first step to working with self-destructive behaviours is to recognise them. The next step is to determine what triggers these feelings and to find a way to work through them. An Integrative coach can guide you on your journey to self-discovery and give you the tools needed to overcome these harmful behaviours.
There’s no shame in needing help and guidance to overcome self-destruction. Learn how to stop these negative behaviours in their tracks so you can grow and move forward. Get in touch with Integrative Coaching to book your free session today!